It was my first meeting with this team. We’d been talking about what to do next for forty-five minutes. The discussion bounced around several times, while two team mates with strong opinions dominated the conversation. I had trouble getting a word in edgewise.

We all sat in a circle, silent. No one from our team wanted to start. No one wanted to go first. No one wanted to be the first to tell their story.

The assignment was to go around the room, everyone sharing how they were feeling about the new team structure. It was personal, and no one felt comfortable opening their mouth and baringbearing all. No one was ready to open their heart and be vulnerable about their feelings.

Were safety and trust present? 

The team leader rarely showed transparency or vulnerability, rarely admitted his own faults or personal struggles. He seemed to have his life together. His marriage and his family appeared to be perfect. 

All of us on the team feared being judged by the others. We wondered if

Where are you headed?

What helps you get up in the morning?

What will you say “yes” to today?

Why do you do what you do?

These questions reflect your vision. Do you have one? Some leaders don’t, but the good ones usually do.

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Leader /lē-dər/ noun. The first one to arrive. The last one standing.

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